marriage

It happens in fairy tales.
You see it on TV and in movies.
Celebrities and famous people are doing it.
Your friends ask you when you're going to.
Your parents want you to.
The government says it's the building block of society.
It's strange if you have children and you're not.
You can't get tax breaks if you have children and you're not.
People who are not imagine what it's like to be.
People who are would rather not be.

Is marriage necessary?

Is it just a piece of paper or is it something that magically binds 2 people together for eternity?

Who came up with that idea anyway?

I think marriage might just be a necessary evil. Don't be shocked that I'm referring to marriage as "evil"; it's just a figure of speech. It means something that has undesirable qualities but is preferable to its absence.

Initially I tried listing down the desirable qualities followed by the undesirable ones, but when I reached the end of the list, I decided to merge the 2 lists because what's desirable can be seen as undesirable if I look at it from a different angle. Here's the list:

- To register and own a HDB flat in Singapore
- You can combine your income to buy what you can't afford to buy on your own, e.g. car, house
- You can try to borrow money from your spouse and in-laws
- To get tax breaks
- You can get alimony after getting a divorce
- To obtain someone's written commitment to take care of you and be with you
- You don't have to work because now you have someone to live off
- To convince a woman to have your children by committing to take care of her and the children in writing
- To obtain a man's written commitment to take care of the children should you have any of his (or to his knowledge...)
- So that you can start neglecting your looks and grow fat(er)
- So you can have a backup plan in case no other man/woman wants you
- So that your relatives and friends can stop asking you when you're going to get married
- To fulfill your role in society or religious calling (marriage is good for society, keeps people in check and supports the wedding and legal businesses)
- You can brag about your air stewardess / model wife or millionaire husband
- It's romantic
- Everybody's doing it
- To prove that there's nothing so "wrong" with you that you can't find someone to marry you
- You hate eating alone or watching movies alone
- You get a free maid plus free sex
- You can have sex without protection
- You get a free plumber, handyman, exterminator, electrician, etc (too bad you got to offer sex in return)

You may say that marriage offers things that cannot be obtained otherwise such as to have someone waiting at home for you, someone who will always be there for you, someone to share your life with, etc. However, all these can be obtained without marriage; marriage cannot guarantee these. If someone wants to be with you, he/she will be with you regardless of whether there's a signed piece of paper. If someone doesn't want to be with you, a piece of paper or religious blessings are not going to do anything for the relationship.

Despite all that I've written here, I think weddings are romantic . I suppose there's a fairy tale idea around love, marriage proposals, weddings and happy-ever-after. Although we all know that reality is far from the fairy tale dream, it doesn't stop most of us from walking down that isle and signing our lives away. It's one of the risks in life that we take in the hope of fulfilling a dream.

ultimate failure

hi all. Havent been updating for a long long time. Now, i shall release everything from the bottom of my heart. As a failure for the past 2 years in poly, i shall describe it as a joyless, unhappy, draggy and tortuous affair with my beloved school of mechanical engineering. Simply unbelievable, God knows what actually went through my mind when i did my jae. To make it a joke to the max, i actually put it as my first jae choice. Semesters later, i realised wtf am i doing with C++, IA, materials, thermofluids, mechanics. Really WTF!! Put it this way, i dont want and i m not interested to learn chimo theories. For the past few sem, i had know nth, learn nth except for getting an above average gpa score just by going through examinations procedure and also being a leech. Fyi, i can actually use my gpa and wipe my ass. Do not ask me how this and that works, i am simply a dumbass to all these. I and C? Materials? pneumatics? stdio.h?? wth are all these. Lectures were just perfect lullaby for me. same goes for tutorials and prac. Sometimes, i envy those who can actually endure the pain of studying chim chim modules. While for me, there is simply no loopholes for chimology theories to enter my mind. Credits to those who spoon feed me answers though. they made my life better by 0.000001%